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8 Signs She Doesn’t Want to Be in a Serious Relationship


8 Signs She Doesn’t Want to Be in a Serious Relationship

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Women and men alike can be complicated. A lot of the time, we don’t say what we really want because we don’t want to let other people down or offend them. And then we lead each other on.

But there’s a common assumption that men are harder to lock down than women—that women are inevitably looking for something serious, even if they deny looking for something serious. But contrary to popular belief, a lot of single women are indeed just looking to hook up—and oftentimes hook up with the same person. Because, for women, sex is incredibly mental, which means they fake it a lot less when they’re comfortable with their partners and can overcome distracting mental blocks.

So for women focused on friends, careers, fitness or something else, securing a friends-with-benefits situation is a sweet deal. Here are some easy clues she’ll drop to hint that she’s not looking for anything more.

Of course things do come up, but if canceling becomes a regular occurrence, make no mistake: She’s not looking to seriously date.

1. She says she’s not looking for anything serious

This isn’t always so obvious. Sometimes she’s lying because she thinks you’re not looking for any commitment, and she doesn’t want to come on too strong. But often she legitimately means it. If she says it without you initiating any talk of your commitment-phobia, it’s less likely she’s just trying to convince you it’s all good—and more likely she’s just looking for casual, convenient sex… or that she just likes hanging out with you.

2. She doesn’t initiate the commitment talk

In the same vein, if she really wants to be with you, it’ll keep her up at night wondering if she’s the only one you’re seeing. Eventually, she’ll ask you about it. If months go by and she doesn’t, it’s because she doesn’t care whether you’re dating or sleeping with other people, because she is, too.

3. She says she’s “finding” herself

If she says any version of this statement (like she’s working on herself), it means she’s into you but she’s got other priorities. Even though she’s trying to get to the gym more often and focus on work, she still has a few spare hours throughout the week to hook up. But not enough time or desire to extend that to a relationship.

4. She tells you about other men

Unless she’s clearly trying to make you jealous, she wouldn’t be telling you about her rendezvous with other dudes. If she does, it’s probably because you’ve been friend-zoned—even if you’re sleeping together.

5. She avoids your pursuits—but not all the time

If you find that you’re the one always initiating plans, or that she’s flaking on your plans, it’s probably because you’re a second, third or fourth option—which is why she’ll sometimes kick it with you. It’s a harsh reality, yes, but if she really wanted to be with you, she’d want to hang out with you, and she’d probably ditch her other plans to do so. Of course, things do come up, but if canceling becomes a regular occurrence, make no mistake: She’s not looking to seriously date.

6. She’s flaky about planning

Likewise, if she gives you a vague response as to when you can rain check, it’s probably because she doesn’t want to make the commitment to hanging out with you because she’s unsure as to whether she’ll still feel like it when the time comes around. If she wanted to be serious, she’d be thinking in advance.

7. She won’t introduce you to her friends or family

If it’s been a while and you’ve yet to meet the people closest to her, it’s not because she’s nervous, which she might tell you; it’s because she doesn’t care enough that she needs affirmation from them. If you were a serious prospect, she’d want their opinions as soon as it wasn’t creepy to invite you to meet them.

8. She has girls nights all the time

Girls nights are a thing that continues even through marriage. And often it really is just the girls. But other times, it really is just the girls until one or more of the girls brings a man into the mix—a boyfriend, husband, random, whomever. So if she insists that it’s a girls’ night, it’s likely that she could tell you to come to hang later on, but she’s just not up for that kind of commitment.


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